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The Buddy System

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by David DeFord

Youth organizations like Boy Scouts, Girl Scouts, and the YMCA use the buddy system to enhance safety. When the children swim, hike, or enjoy other recreational activities, they always have a companion by their side. Buddy checks are held every few minutes to insure that each child has his buddy by his side.

This practice makes it possible for one child to know when another needs help. It also lessens the chances of youngster doing something radically foolish.

Weight Watchers uses a form of the buddy system. They have an associate record each memberís weight. The associate provides encouragement, urging or praise as needed.

A mountain climber tethers himself to a buddy. If he loses his footing, his buddy keeps him from tumbling to his death.

You can use the buddy system to help you keep on the path toward your lofty goals. Choose a buddy that will challenge you when you need challenging, encourage you when you need encouraging, and praise you when you need praising. Do not choose one who will ridicule or tease you, or who will entice you to backslide.

By working with a buddy you deepen your commitment to your goals. When you feel tempted to fall back into old ways, your buddy can remind you of what you really want. Your buddy will help you celebrate as you make large and small victories on the path toward your ultimate goals.

If you have no one with whom you feel that you can safely confide, you have options.

  • Join and post to Online forums
  • Correspond with a pen pal
  • Write in your journal or diary
  • Publish a blog

Increase your effectiveness and your accountability by using the buddy system. You will certainly make greater strides toward your dreams.


Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great. Mark Twain

To love a person is to learn the song that is in their heart, and to sing it to them when they have forgotten. Thomas Chandler

I only wish you could see what I see when I look at you. Kobi Yamada

If a window of opportunity appears, donít pull down the shade. Tom Peters

It's easy to count the seeds in an apple, but only God can count the apples in a single seed. Dr. Robert Schuller

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