by David DeFord
We have discussed aligning our choices of how we use our time with our personal and family values.
Another value alignment we should make centers around our seek money.
How we view our financial status makes a significant difference in our quality of life. Some live to build fabulous wealth. They feel that no obstacle is too great to keep them from their financial goals. Their families, their health, and their integrity pale in importance and often become casualties to their wealth pursuit.
These people feel that once they have acquired their fortune they will be happy, and only then will they be able to really enjoy life. Yet most of these money-seekers continue to seek more and more wealth, even after they have achieved a massive fortune. Their obsession with financial growth compares to how a person afflicted with an eating disorder looks at weight loss—it’s never enough.
If the rich have more happiness than others, why do so many live tragic, lonely lives? Suicide, drug addiction, violence, and family turmoil seem to plague so many of the wealthy.
Have you ever seen a moving van in a funeral cortege?
At the end of our lives, the size of our fortune will not matter to anyone (except our heirs). What will matter? The best way to discover what will matter to you at the end of your life is to take the eulogy test.
The Eulogy Test
You need not apply to take this test—there is no application fee. You need no blue books nor number two pencils. To take the eulogy test, you only need some time for contemplation. There is only one question on this important test: How would you like for your life to be described at your funeral?
This simple question can help you change the course of your life. Are you chasing the wrong dream?
Would your eulogizer say, “He really knew how to make a buck. We all admired his impressive earning ability.”
Or would he say, “Here lies a man who sure loved reality shows. He built his life's schedule around them. ”
I doubt if either of these dreams sound like what you really want. True greatness does not come from our earnings or from some of the other pursuits that we give priority.
The topics of discussion by the dying rarely include these meaningless subjects. I’ve read that the last reflections of the dying center on love for family and the joys of contributing to the lives of others.
The dying want to confirm that their life mattered.
Making Your Life Matter
So, what do you want your eulogy to cover?
It’s never too early to begin providing your eulogizer with meaningful material. Involve yourself in the lives of your family members, touch the lives of others, and follow your own path to true greatness.
Transcend the dulling effect of popular culture—find your own unique ways to build those around you. Add some meaningful passion to your life.
Don’t wait to make your life matter!
"To do good things in the world, first you must know who you are and what gives meaning to your life." Robert Browning
"We all have two choices: We can make a living or we can design a life." Jim Rohn
"Happiness and high performance come to you when you choose to live your life consistent with your highest values and your deepest convictions." Brian Tracy
“What a therapeutic and wonderful thing it is for a man or woman to set aside all consideration of personal gain and reach out with strength and energy and purpose to help the unfortunate, to improve the community, to clean up the environment, and to beautify our surroundings.” Gordon B. Hinckley
"Happiness is not the result of circumstance. It is the result of loving others." Lloyd Newell
David DeFord has written the book you need to accomplish all that you seek in your life.
Ordinary People Can Achieve the Extraordinary-A Practical Guide to Goal Achievement will help you bust past the inevitable obstacles. In the past, you became discouraged and quit chasing your dreams.
Now, you can press past these roadblocks and reach your chosen destinations.
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- How to identify your “Great One Thing”
- How to use all of your sense to keep enthused
- How to become the success you seek
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